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About the book
Most of what we call self-care is built to answer one question: how do I stop feeling this? The bath, the green juice, the gratitude list, the retreat you come home from already tired. None of that is the problem. The problem is the promise attached to it, that if you do the right things in the right way, you’ll stop being exhausted.
You won’t, and that isn’t a personal failing. We live in a world that never stops taking. Self-care can get you through a rough stretch. It can’t restore what keeps getting taken.
Esther Boykin spent twenty-three years as a therapist teaching other people to be gentler with themselves, and she still burned out, more than once. What finally held wasn’t a better routine. It was self-compassion, not as one more thing to do but as a new way to be, and she offers it here as both an expert and as a woman who had to learn to walk her talk. She shows why so many of us are depleted and how self-kindness, mindful emotional awareness, and connection become a practice that tends to you every day, rather than a fix for one hard week.
The book closes with a 30-day guided journal. Self-compassion isn’t about getting to the ten. It’s what you do with yourself on a four, and how that care sustains you for the long haul.
Questions
When will my signed copy ship?
Orders placed by December 12 are expected to ship by December 31, and every order placed by December 31 ships by January 10. The book publishes January 12, 2027.
Is every copy really signed?
Yes, by hand, and personalized to the name you give at checkout. If I ever have to stop personalizing copies, I’ll say so right here first.
Can I send it as a gift?
Yes. Put their name in the signing field, ship it to their address, and if you order by December 12, I’ll mail them a Christmas card from me so they have something to open before the book arrives in the new year.
What comes with a pre-order?
A bookmark and a note from me. Order by December 12 and a Christmas card from me goes out ahead of the book, to you or to the person you’re giving it to.
Where do you ship?
Worldwide. Shipping is calculated at checkout.
Can I cancel my pre-order?
No. Pre-orders can’t be cancelled once they’re placed. If you need to update your shipping address, email me at esther@estherboykin.com.
Is there a Kindle edition?
Yes. Kindle pre-orders open on Amazon in December.
Does the book include the 30-day journal?
Yes. Part two of the book is a 30-day guided journal, so the practice sits right alongside the ideas.
Can I order for my team or book club?
For 25 or more copies, use the team order form and I’ll invoice you directly. Smaller groups can order here.