You know what's wrong. You've tried to fix it.
The missing piece is underneath.
Ninety minutes with me, virtual, for individuals and couples ready to look at what's been holding the pattern in place.
A Pause Together
An unprocessed feeling. An unnamed belief.
An option you haven't considered yet.
We use the Pace · Pause · Pivot framework to surface what's been quietly running the loop.
You leave with one aligned next step.
Why Do This Work Right Now
You can name the pattern. You can articulate exactly what you'd need to do differently. You've read the books, done the therapy, listened to the podcasts. You know your attachment style and your partner's love language and the shape of the loop you keep landing back inside.
And still, here you are.
This is the gap that Pace · Pause · Pivot is built for. The one between awareness and movement. Insight that's stopped converting. The kind of stuck that high-functioning people are especially good at hiding because we keep meeting our deadlines while quietly disappearing inside the days.
What's missing isn't more information. It's someone who can stay with the specifics of your life long enough to see where the loop actually closes.
That's what this is.
Your Pause Together session fee becomes a credit towards a future Sovereign Self or Devoted Partnership intensive if booked within 60 days.
Details below.
Two Doors.
One Promise.
A space for you to get under the pattern that is keeping you stuck.
Solo Sessions for individuals
90 minutes · virtual · $750Who it's for
You're high-functioning. You're competent. You're tired of being the most insightful person in your social circle, yet somehow still stuck in your own unhelpful patterns.
What we'll do
Start with what's actually true for you right now, not the usual “I’m fine” that you give everyone. Use the framework to find the thread weaving through the issues that you can’t see. Finally, figure out a new process to move forward.
What you leave with
One aligned next step. Specific to your life, not a generic plan. Something concrete enough to act on.
90 minutes · virtual · $1,500Couple Sessions for you and your partner
Who it's for
You're committed, and you're stuck. Tired of having the same fight in different costumes, avoiding the same conversations, and compromising only to end up in the same unhappy spot.
What we'll do
Start with some compassionate but radical honesty. Use the framework to look at the structure of your particular dynamic. Figure out what is really happening under the surface for each of you and the small shift that helps you connect differently.
What you leave with
One aligned next step. For both of you. Specific to your relationship, not a generic playbook
How it works
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Book & Pay in One Easy Step - Click the button and get immediate access to my calendar. Choose your preferred date before you make a payment. Spring bookings close May 23.01
Quick Intake Process - answer a handful of questions when scheduling. No lengthy questionnaires and paperwork. Just enough information that I show up ready to learn more.02
The Session - ninety minutes with me on Zoom. You get my focused, sustained attention on what's actually happening in the moment and real-time feedback on what I see in your patterns.The 60-Day Window - If a full intensive is the right next step, your session investment applies in full as credit toward any tier of Sovereign Self or Devoted Partnership you book within 60 days. 
Why Do This Work With Me?
For 23 years, I've sat with people in their hardest moments without rushing them toward resolution. Couples on the edge. Individuals in transition. Leaders who can't keep doing it the way they've been doing it. Some of that work was in a clinical practice I closed last year. Some of it lives now in intensives, in retreats, in workshops with organizations.
What I do is the same in every room. I find the threads. The disjointed pieces of what someone is carrying, and what they're really asking for underneath. Then I offer it back. Not as advice, not as a fix. As something they can recognize.
The thing people tell me again and again, in different words: they came in expecting to feel exposed, and instead they felt relief. That's the work. Loving clarity. Honest reflection. The room you don't have to perform in.
23 years as a licensed marriage and family therapist. TEDx speaker. Founder of Esther B. Consulting and Compassion Collective. The credentials matter less than what they've taught me, which is how to stay present with what's hard long enough for something real to happen.
What People Are Saying
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"I am still in awe of how masterful Esther was in holding the space for us. I am so used to navigating our relationship alone, but this showed me something different."
— Former Customer
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“Esther is truly phenomenal. Her work is transformative, and her ability to blend compassion with practical insight is unmatched."
— Paul C. Brunson, host of We Need to Talk
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“I kept investing in other things but, you helped me realize that focusing on me is essential to clarifying what I want the next chapter of my life to be.”
— Former Client
Questions People Ask
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Who is this ideal for?
This is for high-functioning individuals and couples who need a quick shift. People with insight who are still stuck, and couples tired of circling the same issue. It’s also an ideal introduction to my style of work for anyone contemplating an intensive, retreat or other service.
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We're a couple; can one of us do a solo session first?
Some couples come into the couples session together. Others start with one partner doing the solo session first, then the couple comes together later, or continue with solo work. The best choice depends on your goals and readiness. If you’re still unsure, book a consultation.
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How does this fit with your intensives?
A Pause Together stands on its own as a meaningful, transformative service. And also serves as a great entry point before committing to a Sovereign Self or Devoted Partnership plan. Your investment here carries forward as a credit towards any intensive for 60 days.
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Virtual or in-person?
Virtual only. Zoom link is included in your confirmation. Use any device with a camera, though a laptop or desktop tends to be easier than a phone for a session this length. Headphones help, but aren’t required as long as you’re in a quiet, private space where you won't be interrupted.
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Who is not a good fit?
A Pause Together session is not for you if you are experiencing an active crisis. If you or your partner feels unsafe, is having a mental health emergency, or is in an active abuse cycle, please reach out to a crisis resource or a clinician who can offer ongoing care. This is not an appropriate service to manage those situations and your health and safety is the top priority.
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Is this therapy?
No. It's intensive coaching. I'm not diagnosing you, treating a clinical condition, or building an ongoing therapeutic relationship. The clinical foundation shapes how I work, but A Pause Together is a focused conversation about a specific shift you're ready to make. If you need ongoing therapy, I'm happy to point you toward clinicians I trust.
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What happens after the 60-day window?
The session credit expires after 60 days. If you decide to book a full intensive after that window, the standard pricing applies and the path is the same as anyone else: a free consultation, then directly into Sovereign Self or Devoted Partnership.
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What if I need to reschedule or cancel?
Rescheduling is free up to 48 hours before the session. For cancellations 5 or more days before: full refund minus a $50 admin fee. Cancellations up to 1 day before: nonrefundable, but transferable to another date or service. Same day or no-show: no refund, no credit, no transfer.
Ready to Pause?
Book your session today or schedule a call to talk through your questions.